I have been mulling over this blog post in my mind, trying to decide how to best approach it. There has been a lot to think about and a lot to share. First I was diagnosed with aortic stenosis, which necessitates a heart valve replacement. Then my husband had to have hand surgery, from which he is still recovering. My dentist determined that I had an infection in my teeth and sinuses. Therefore, three teeth had to be extracted before I could have heart surgery. Then I needed a biopsy for another issue (luckily it came back benign). The week before I was to have my heart surgery my mother died. She had dementia, which was eroding her quality of life. She missed my dad terribly and kept falling and injuring herself badly. On that final day she got very sick and had to be rushed to the hospital. Luckily I got there just in time. She died as I was holding her hand. The ER staff could not have been more caring and compassionate. I got to spend the next hour with my mom, just holding her hand. It was such a quiet, healing time. It was though time stood still. I will be grateful for this until the day that I die. The staff gave me a lock of her hair, and hugged me as I was leaving. I will not remember that time as a time of loss, but as a time of love and peace.
Four days after the funeral I was admitted to the hospital for my aortic valve replacement surgery. While I would not wish that surgery on anyone, it turned out to be a very positive experience. The staff treated me wonderfully. I feel as though I made so many friends. Who has fun in the hospital after surgery? I remember the staff’s kindness and competence more than anything. These events served to help me see what is most important in the world. People. You can love “stuff”, but it won’t love you back. People will. I realize now that people, all people, are the true treasures in our lives. The people who I encountered during these difficult times gave me a part of themselves. And the beauty of this type of sharing is that you never deplete your own supply of caring. The more you give, the more you have to give.
So, I guess I will leave it at that. Kindness is the most valuable thing we can give and share. It’s the driving force behind all our positive actions.
Thanks for visiting my blog. Take care.
“When you do the common things in life in an uncommon way, you will command the attention of the world.” George Washington Carver